Why do I only fancy bad boys? Why do decent, regular blokes leave me cold? I’m in the process of breaking up with my third fiancé.
He’s heartbroken that I’m leaving. He and his lovely mother were organising a big wedding for us.
We were due to live in a beautiful cottage and benefit from an inheritance from his granny.
But I have to leave because he’s too nice for me. I don’t like to use the word “dull”, but there is no danger, excitement or edge in our relationship.
When we make love, it is past lovers and future conquests that I am always fantasising about.
He’d be horrified if he actually knew what was whirling around my dirty mind at the point of orgasm.
I may look sleek and co-ordinated on the outside – my boss calls me her “little star” – but my mind is a sewer and my sexual appetite very niche.
I like men who couldn’t give a damn, men who wear what they like and live by their own rules.
I’m always drawn to the snarling, grubby, misfit in the corner. That’s the guy who fascinates and intrigues me and turns me on.
If my boss ever saw a line-up of my most treasured past lovers she would flip out.
Now I’m itching again for fresh meat. I’m hungry for screaming rows, anger and red-hot passion – just so I can feel truly alive.
My best friend knows me inside out. She’s as vanilla as I’m kinky. We love each other like sisters but I know that I exasperate her.
She worries about me being lonely and washed up in future.
JANE SAYS: We’re all different and you’re being honest about your specific taste.
It would be the easiest thing in the world to marry your current fiancé for stability and financial gain, but that wouldn’t be fair on him or yourself.
Living a lie can never be an option.Clearly you’re a real thrill-seeker.
You always have to pick the roughest, toughest nut to crack.
You love the thrill of the chase and the challenge of a very naughty lover, but where will it all end up?
Your loyal friend cares for you but is left confused by your self-destructive streak.
Do you think something from your past makes you act this way?
Do you now need to speak to a health professional regarding your upbringing?
Were you badly treated or let down by adults as a child? Think about it.
Is there the danger that you’re going to look back one day and ask yourself: “What was all that about?”
Think hard about your self-esteem and sexual health, too.
I accept you’re hungry for passion and a fresh start, but is another bad boy really going to help you to feel safe and warm in the long run?
Ask yourself if you are throwingawayyour health and potential.
Isn’t there another release for your considerable energy that you could consider?