My girlfriend’s temper terrifies me.
The other day she picked up a frying pan and threw it out of the kitchen window. She was angry because I’d dared to suggest that we both needed to lose weight.
We live on the second floor and, luckily, there was no-one in the communal garden below.
But she could have caused a nasty accident. I watched my egg and bacon flying through the air thinking: “I have to get out of here.”
During the three years we’ve been together she’s chucked me out of my own car, abandoned me on holiday and humiliated me in front of my boss.
One of the worst things she ever did was storm out of my brother’s wedding. I was the Best Man. I was halfway through my speech when she stood up and slurred: “What about me?” She was jealous because I was saying nice things about my brother and the bride and nothing about her!
Other guests asked her to sit down so she threw a jug of water in the chief bridesmaid’s face and stormed off.
Later she came back (very drunk) and accused me of sleeping with said chief bridesmaid who was seven months pregnant with her husband’s baby. I was absolutely mortified.
Because my girl sticks to the rule of never apologising or explaining, I seem to spend half my life making excuses for her.
Someone wants to buy our flat. She is keen to upgrade while I’m (secretly) thinking about splitting the cash and calling it a day.
I fancy a clean break but I know she’ll go absolutely spare if I dare to suggest breaking up and reclaiming my life. How did I ever get myself into this?
You have to follow your head and find a way out. Your girlfriend’s behaviour sounds terrifying. From throwing items around to humiliating you in public, she clearly thinks she can do and say anything she likes.
Well, she’s wrong because you’re entitled to feel safe and comfortable at all times.
Chucking a hot frying pan out of an open window was an incredibly stupid thing to do – someone could have been seriously hurt.
She needs help for her anger issues. You’ve only been together a short time but in three years she’s done nothing but scare and crush you.
Your family and friends saw her in action at your brother’s wedding and must have been furious.
Now you’ve got a chance to get away and you must grab it with both hands.
Explain to family and friends that you need help in getting out safely. What can those who love you do to ensure the flat is sold and you get to a better place?
Don’t allow your pride or worry about what other people might say stop you from doing what you know is right.
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