Nadia Bokody writes about sex for a living.
And over the years, the Australian relationship expert has been in all manner of unusual situations.
And this month, Nadia spoke about what it was like to go to a swingers party.
At the intimate occasion, she watched as strangers romped right in front of her.
But even though the sexpert was witness to a wild orgy, she describes those involved as “boringly normal”.
In her column for news.com.au, the love guru wrote: “Until you see it, you just don’t quite believe it’s real. To be fair, if a friend had recounted this tale to me, I’d have questioned her commitment to truth-telling. But orgies do in fact break out at ‘intimate adult events’.
“The best way I can describe my own experience witnessing one is: one moment my boyfriend and I were chatting with a fully clothed couple over cocktails; the next, they were naked and in the throes of a human pretzel with several other party goers right in front of us.
“I wasn’t limber nor body confident enough to join them, but I didn’t say no to the live porn.”
Nadia managed to make some friends through the swinging community.
She describes them as mostly “married couples with kids who work corporate jobs”.
Nadia says you’d probably never guess if someone you knew was swinging in private.
She revealed many of the people she spoke to “lead double lives”.
Many keep their kinks private to their “vanilla” friends to avoid being judged.
Ultimately, Nadia realised those in the swinging community are like any other human beings.
Even though they experiment in the bedroom, they get jealous just like others do.
The only key difference between those who are monogamous and polygamous is the sense of “ownership” when dating.
Nadia added: “One of the most enlightened conversations I’ve had to date, was with a man who attends sex parties with his wife; a strikingly beautiful woman who’s a professional model.
“'The whole idea that when you partner with a woman, she’s your property, is wrong. Men need to stop treating women’s bodies like things to be owned and conquered,' he told me."
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