A man has opened up about his reasons to use an escort behind his now ex-wife's back.

The anonymous man said he loved it when his partner would wear sexy underwear in the bedroom.

But when that all stopped, the fella had to seek pleasure in a different sort of way, by using an escort.

Now speaking on the Slow Love podcast with former high-flying escort Samantha X, the man opened up about his antics.

He told her: "I love lingerie (on women) and I always have."

As the years passed, the fella's ex-partner stopped wearing kinky suspenders and stockings.

The anonymous man was speaking to Samantha X
The anonymous man was speaking to Samantha X

He continued: "When we first met, she wore a lot of lingerie and liked wearing it.

"Later on there was some she'd wear. She wasn't willing to be wearing it more, but we didn't tell each other that."

During the final years of his marriage, the man started linking up with escorts, including Samantha X, which he kept a secret.

The man would often request his ladies to wear suspenders and stockings during their kinky encounters.

He told how he was seeing the escorts behind his now ex-wife's back
He told how he was seeing the escorts behind his now ex-wife's back

He admitted: "It wasn't that I wasn't necessarily getting lingerie and sex in my marriage, it was more we weren't close to each other intimately in the marriage at all."

The man's 20-year marriage was a "typical" relationship before they tied the knot, but cracks began to show after.

Communication began to drop and soon after the intimacy between the two also decreased.

The bloke believes that men, more so than women, need sex in a long-term relationship.

He opened up to the former high-flying escort
He opened up to the former high-flying escort

Despite feeling guilty about seeing escorts behind his ex-partner's back, he did think of it as a "bit of enjoyment and a treat".

He continued: "I think it can be addictive, you like it, you might see an escort for a short while and if you enjoy it then you'll get on to seeing them for two hours or for four hours or overnight.

"I think men who do see escorts regularly at some point they'll have the dream of thinking, 'Can it happen in real life?'"

Speaking about the moment his wife discovered that he was seeing escorts, he revealed: "She was very hurt. She felt humiliated and there was a lack of trust."

Now the man is "happy being single" and seeing escorts every few months.

He concluded: "It's no strings attached as to the physical intimacy, (I) enjoy the sense of dressing up and going out for a nice evening.

"I do think that it's going to be quite hard to give up seeing escorts.

"It's going to depend on meeting the right person and feeling like there's just a real connection."